I can’t seem to fix this feeling; I’m stuck between feeling anxious or flat and depressed, I think I need some help with my issue around ___________,
I feel a bit __________, and I don’t know what to do.
Discombobulated, now that’s a word that’s not going to rate terribly highly in a google search!
However, it is a useful word that simply means confused, disconcerted, out of sorts.
It’s a word that in my mind that doesn’t seem to have too much baggage associated with it.
You know those other words that seem to weigh things down and are difficult to raise in a conversation like, depressed, upset, anxious, angry, emotional or sad.
Maybe it’s a cultural thing but if you bring up one of those weighty words in conversation you may suddenly notice a change in the flow. The other persons start to squirm and is looking at their phone and talking about running off to their next appointment or they have an urge to want to talk about the funny weather we are having lately.
However, throw in the word discombobulated into a conversation and I guarantee that it will draw people in, and they will at the very least want to know what you mean. Now you have an opportunity to broaden your conversation by explaining to them what it means; no not the dictionary meaning, but what it means for you.
Maybe now you can approach what is bothering you in a less weighty way and maybe if you are fortunate, you’ll find some support. If not, what then?
If you find that you can’t find your voice, or you don’t know where to start, or it feels too funny to raise your stuff with your significant other, or you worry that if you start talking about your stuff you won’t be able to stop, or you’ll be overwhelmed with emotions and you definitely can’t work in discombobulated into your conversations, then maybe you need someone else to talk with.
A registered professional counsellor.
A registered professional counsellor is someone who has deep skills for listening and maybe can help you find a fresh perspective with what you are struggling with. Professional counselling is a safe confidential* working alliance a collaboration between you and the counsellor. Counselling works best when an effective working relationship is established, a collaboration between you and the counsellor to achieve your goal and improve your situation. The counsellor can help you asses your options, build on your strengths, clarify your goals and support you to develop the skills you need to live your life worth living now and into the future.
You’ll be an active participant in the counselling process at every stage.
Your counsellor can support and assist you to:
Identify your strengths and capacities for dealing with your life’s challenges.
Identify, prioritise and achieve your personal goals and live your life worth living now and into the future.
Foster lasting change in your life and relationships.
Changes facilitated during counselling may include:
Developing a change in your perspective.
Finding new insights and new ways of thinking about yourself.
Enhanced awareness of feelings in yourself & others.
A greater degree of acceptance and compassion for yourself and other people in your life.
An increased capacity to feel comfortable with uncomfortable thoughts and feeling.
An ability to pause and make choices in line with your values and life direction.
A greater engagement with your life and living.
Listed below are some of the concerns that people seek assistance with in counselling:
Burnout and fatigue.
Feeling a lack of engagement with life, lacking direction or purpose.
Confidence and self-esteem issues.
Loneliness or feelings of isolation.
Relationship issues (partner, family, friends).
Problems with changes in relationships.
Workplace or employment changes and stress.
Harassment and bullying.
Counselling can assist you, we can work together to understand your concerns, improve your situation and to find hope for the future. Counselling can help you with your motivation and engagement, guide you, and help you find ways to look after and improve your overall wellbeing.
If this sounds interesting to you, or if you have any questions, I invite you to contact me and we can discuss your situation.
*Confidentiality is limited when there are risks to the safety of the client or others.